Whenever much emphasis is put onto a ‘special’ occasion there are more things that can go wrong. If your partner buys the wrong present, be gracious and think that they thought of you even if they haven’t a clue. If you go out to dinner and the food is not good or the service disappointing, avoid the blame game with your partner. Go home and make the evening special for yourselves and enjoying each others company.
Being angry and upset when someone makes an effort for us and gets it wrong only prolongs a negative time in your relationship. Be bigger than that and move on especially if you are the one who is better at choosing the right gift or lucky at knowing which restaurants are right for the occasion. Think of what other positive qualities your partner brings to the table and if kindness is one of them – count yourself blessed and enjoy.
If you are feeling negative about your partner’s behaviour and everything they do upsets or annoys you. Stop and think about what you like about them? Think about the things that you appreciate about them.
Do they constantly find fault with you and you retaliate or is it the other way around? Stop and ask yourself, What is going on between us? Is this the way we want our lives to be? What am I prepared to do to change this situation?
If you have had a bad day at work for whatever reason or your journey was frustrating, it is not your partner’s fault. They were not there. Before you pick up the phone and look for reasons to find fault with them to justify you venting your frustration just imagine what they look like, what they sound like and who they are to you. You are not calling a repository for your bad humour, you are calling your life partner and they deserve to be treated well. Now with our clever technology it is a good idea to have a photograph of your partner come up on your phone when you call their number. This reminds you that they are a real person, the person you love and it makes it harder to vent your spleen on them.
It does not mean that you cannot tell them that you have had a frustrating day, you can and hearing a kind and loving voice can ease your own distress. Don’t forget to also ask them about their day.