We live in a world surrounded by so many people who look different to ourselves in so many different ways.  I hear so often how children are bullied at school for being different.  Parents need to be accepting and teach their children to accept others and explain that it is cruel to make others feel bad.

Imagine if every time you went out of your house, got on a bus or train or even just walked down the street and people both stared at you and felt that they had a right to comment on the way you look.  People don’t have these rights and yet still do it, just imagine both the short term and long term impact on their self esteem.  People in the workplace frequently endure people being cruel to them, under the guise of humour, they don’t like it and yet are afraid of saying anything incase they make the situation worse.

If you are about to say something unkind to or about someone, stop and ask yourself ‘do I need to make this comment at all?’  Am I going to improve the quality of my or their lives by saying this negative thing?

CBT teaches us to change our negative thoughts about ourselves into positive ones, I think we could apply this to our thoughts about others.  A childhood comment I heard so ofter was ‘if you cannot say something nice about or to someone then don’t say anything at all’. I still like this philosophy and although I don’t always find it easy I do endeavour to stick to it.

If we could accept everyone as being another important human being with feelings no matter how large or small, the colour of their skin and regardless of what they look like I believe the world in which we live could be a nicer and kinder place for all of us.

The Perpetuation of Bullying

Once again watching Rookies has brought inappropriate behaviour to my attention.

Being bullied as a child is not an excuse for bullying others as an adult.  Anyone who has been bullied knows first hand about the impact the behaviour of others had on them.  They then have a choice.  They can hurt or humiliate others in the way that it happened to them and continue the cycle or they can make a decision that they do not want other people to suffer what they themselves went through.

The young man on this programme laughed when he was accused of bullying by his senior colleague.  His mother said that he had been severely bullied at school as though to excuse the way in which he treats other people now.  That is not an excuse, bullying is cruel and unkind and there is never a justification for it.

What is wrong with being kind to other people and running a very large risk that they will treat you in the same way?


i fail to understand why the press are being so cruel to the queen over something that happened so long ago.  She works harder than most people and is a good role model to us.  Why is she being attacked because her father taught her and her sister a gesture that was fashionable at the time?  It was likely to be just as innocent as children today being taught to high five. If somewhere in the world at this moment it is becoming a symbol of brutality and hatred how would we know?

When something is given or taught in good faith should their lives be made miserable if it turns out to be something different in the future?  This behaviour makes me sad and is causing unnecessary stress and suffering.